Before Christmas, and by some random circumstances, I got in touch with an acquaintance I hadn't seen for several years. I got a quick response from her side with an enigmatic I'm busy now, I'll text you later.
I was expecting to eventually get a reply from her (so naive from my side). After a week, I accepted that I'll text you later was an elegant way of saying I'm not interested in texting you back.
I'm aware that people are busy, but sending a message today is as easy as breathing. It takes less than ten seconds to write a reply. If someone doesn't reach back after a day (two at max), it's because they don't want to. I understand that people have their reasons, no hard feelings.
The thing is that now and then, I tend to think about this person. She experienced some harsh circumstances when she was young, going through emotional pain as a teen, and on the one hand, I want to know if she is doing well. On the other hand, I don't want to look like a creep. Thus, if someone doesn't reach back, I let it go. It's the best for both parties. The worst that you can do is to force a conversation. I've been on the other side, feeling pressured by someone else, and it doesn't feel great.
The circle of life, I guess. You may want to contact someone, but she or he might not be interested. She or he might reach someone else, but the other person doesn't seem to reciprocate. Someone else wants to get in touch with you, and you can't be bothered. Humans are complicated, plus we are living in weird times.
Hi, I'm Erik, an engineer from Barcelona. If you like the post or have any comments, say hi.